GOOD MANNERS FOR ALL PEOPLE, ESPECIALLY FOR THOSE "WHO DWELL WITHIN THE BROAD ZONE OF THE AVERAGE"
(REVISED EDITION)
PHILADELPHIA
THE PENN PUBLISHING COMPANY
1919
Copyright, 1892, By the Penn Publishing Company
Contents
INTRODUCTION
I. ETHICS OF ETIQUETTE
II. VISITING CARDS
THE OFFICE OF THE VISITING CARD. STYLE OF CARDS. THE ENGRAVING OF VISITING CARDS.— Cards for Men; Cards for Women; Cards for Young Women; After Marriage Cards. THE USE OF THE VISITING CARD.— Calling in Person; Card-leaving in Lieu of Personal Calls; Cases in which Personal Card-leaving is Required; Cards by Messenger or by Post; Card-leaving by Proxy. SOME FURTHER ILLUSTRATIONS OF CARD USAGE.
III. CEREMONIOUS CARDS AND INVITATIONS. ETIQUETTE OF REPLIES. THE "HIGH TEA," OR MUSICALE, ETC. WEDDING INVITATIONS. DINNER INVITATIONS. LUNCHEON AND BREAKFAST INVITATIONS.
IV. THE CONDUCT OF A CHURCH WEDDING
V. ENTERTAINING
VI. AFTERNOON RECEPTIONS AND TEAS
VII. THE DINNER SERVICE
REQUISITES FOR THE DINING-TABLE. THE FORMAL ARRANGEMENT OF THE DINNER-TABLE. THE ARRIVAL OF GUESTS, MEANWHILE. THE ANNOUNCEMENT OF DINNER. THE SERVING OF THE DINNER. MISCELLANEOUS POINTS. DINNER-TABLE TALK. INFORMAL DINNERS.
VIII. LUNCHEONS
IX. SUPPERS
X. BREAKFASTS
XI. EVENING PARTIES
XII. THE TWENTIETH CENTURY
XIII. "THE STRANGER THAT IS WITHIN THY GATES"
XIV. "MAKE YOURSELF AT HOME"
XV. "AS THE TWIG IS BENT"
XVI. SOCIAL YOUNG AMERICA
XVII. THE AMERICAN CHAPERONE
XVIII. GREETINGS. RECOGNITIONS. INTRODUCTIONS
XIX. BEHAVIOR IN PUBLIC THOROUGHFARES
XX. IN PUBLIC ASSEMBLIES
XXI. BEARING AND SPEECH
XXII. SELF-COMMAND
XXIII. A FEW POINTS ON DRESS
XXIV. PERSONAL HABITS
XXV. SOCIAL CO-OPERATION
XXVI. ON THE WING
XXVII. ETIQUETTE OF GIFTS
XXVIII. GALLANTRY AND COQUETRY
XXIX. IN CONCLUSION
INTRODUCTION
As a rule, books of etiquette are written from the standpoint of theultra-fashionable circle. They give large space to the details ofbehavior on occasions of extreme conventionality,